Sorry, Not Sorry: Why Some Women in Perimenopause Unleash Their Unapologetic Badass
A New Perimenopause Attitude for Some
Surgical menopause hit me like a freight train, and suddenly, I found myself dropping “sorry” like it was hot—then reclaiming it with a smirk.
“Sorry I’m late—actually, not sorry. I don’t rush anymore.”
For many women, perimenopause sparks a newfound “sorry, not sorry” attitude. We’re done with passive-aggressive guilt trips, over the people-pleasing, and ready to own every sweaty, spirited second of this transition.
This shift can be transformative, but it also requires balance.
Here’s why this phase might unleash your perimenopause confidence—and how to thrive through it like the wise woman you’re becoming.
What Does “Sorry, Not Sorry” Mean in Perimenopause?
Perimenopause isn’t just about hot flashes—it’s an unfiltered attitude upgrade. With hormone fluctuations rewriting the rules, you start realizing that apologizing for simply existing is optional.
Instead of defaulting to “sorry” for things like taking up space or prioritizing yourself, you start leaning into:
✅ Setting boundaries without guilt
✅ Dropping truth bombs with zero hesitation
✅ Owning your space unapologetically
Post-surgical menopause, I stopped apologizing for needing rest. “Sorry, I can’t” became “Not sorry—I’m worth it.” It’s freeing, but it can feel intense.
The Liberation of an Unapologetic Perimenopause
This shift isn’t random—it’s a natural evolution. Perimenopause burns the old rulebook of “be nice,” “put everyone first,” and “dim your light so others feel comfortable.”
You’re not here for the stifling shoulds anymore. It’s a liberation—a chance to shed outdated expectations and step into your power.
Think of it as your wise woman era kicking in—less apology, more authority, all with a spiritual wink. The Crone archetype doesn’t say sorry for existing; she owns every inch of her being.
A 2024 Time Magazine article highlights how perimenopause can lead to a “shattered sense of identity”, with some women experiencing a liberating shift away from people-pleasing tendencies and into newfound confidence and firm boundaries.
How to Balance Your ‘Sorry, Not Sorry’ Menopause Confidence
Embracing this new attitude is empowering, but balance is key. Here’s how to stay grounded:
🔹 Mindfulness: Take five minutes daily for deep breathing to keep your bold energy in check.
🔹 Journaling: Write down what you’re done apologizing for (like skipping that party!) and why—it’s a spiritual reset for your Crone vibes.
🔹 Community: Surround yourself with women who celebrate your unapologetic self. Join our community at Navigate Menopause (join here).
Living the Wise Woman Energy
Living this mindset means laughing off the chaos—hot flash in a meeting? Not sorry, pass the water.
It’s tossing the guilt, embracing self-care, and speaking your truth without hesitation. For those who feel this shift, you’re not just surviving perimenopause; you’re transforming it into something powerful—with balance to keep it grounded.
Own Your Perimenopause Empowerment
Perimenopause may not spark this shift for everyone, but for some, it’s a chance to ignite an unapologetic, empowered version of yourself.
Say it with me: Sorry, Not Sorry.
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